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Bright Advice #7: Learn to use and trust your subconscious/intuition.

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When you spend time in silence everyday, listen not for words but for a feeling that tells you to do something. Do not mistake your own reasoning and thoughts for those of your subconscious. If you can track where the thought came from, (this thought led to that thought which led to this thought, etc.) then it was not from your subconscious. Learning to accurately discern between the two will allow you to tap into knowledge that you don’t consciously have.

Positive Self-Talking

A very important someone wrote this article. She's a big contributor to the way how I see things, and always drills her own advice into my head. She's a positive influence in  my life for sure, and she has written this article today to share with you. 


"There is nothing in a caterpillar that tells you it’s going to be a butterfly."

Have you ever set a goal for yourself, but are plagued by nagging thoughts that poison your mind with thoughts about how you are not capable for the task and how you simply are not qualified to carry it through? If you have experienced either situations or more, I highly suggest you look into the way you respond to your inner dialogue. Instead of obeying your negative commands, you can use positive self talk to counter the negativity and overcome nearly all, if not most anxious thoughts. Not only are you able to overcome anxious thoughts, but it helps with reducing stress.

Elizabeth Scott wrote an article that provides tips on beginning to learn how to utilize positive self talk in our daily activities.

1.       Notice your patterns

-         Be more sensitive to the problem at hand. You probably do not realize how often you say negative things in your head, think negative thoughts, or how much it affects your experience. But being more aware of the problem and recognizing it is the first step.

2.       Journal Writing

-         Most self help sites recommend writing in a journal, but the point is, find what works best for you individually. The purpose of the journal, is to catch and to notify yourself saying something negative in your mind.

3.       Thought Stopping

-         You can stop your thought mid-stream by saying “stop” either out loud or internally. I had to find myself saying “stop thinking like that, stop doing this, stop, stop, stop.” At times, it would be almost audible for people around me to hear, however, saying it aloud is more powerful because you hear yourself. Having to say it verbally, will make you more aware of how many times you are stopping negative thoughts, and where.

4.       Rubber Band Snap

-         Have you heard of Ivan Pavlov? Another therapeutic trick is to walk around with a rubber band around your wrist, and as you notice negative self talk, snap the rubber-slightly. It will hurt or sting a little, and serve as a slightly negative consequence that will make you both aware of your thoughts and help stop them. In a way this is a form of classical conditioning.

5.       Replace negative statements

-         Instead of basking in a pool of negativity, counterbalance those thoughts with something you are proud of. For example, use “I” statements to reinforce yourself, to build up your damaged self esteem, or even for a source of inner motivation. “I am grateful for my boyfriend/girlfriend, I am beautiful.” Slowly, but surely, you will be able to notice some changes.  Here are some other steps to change your inner dialogue.

o   Milder wording

§  Have you ever been to a hospital and noticed how the nurses and doctors talk about “discomfort” instead of “pain”, “deceased, passed away” instead of “dead”? This is generally done, because “pain” is a much more powerful word and talking about the “pain” level can actually make your experience of it more intense that if you are discussing the “discomfort” level. You can give it a try in your life. In your self-talk, turning more powerful negative words to more neutral ones can actually help neutralize your experience. Instead of using words like “hate” and “angry”, try replacing them with “don’t like, and annoyed”

o   Change negative to neutral or positive

§  If you find yourself mentally complaining about something, rethink your assumptions. Are you assuming something is a negative event when it isn’t? For example, having your plans cancelled last minute can be frustrating and seen as negative, but what you do with your newly freed schedule can be what you make of it. My challenge for you is the next time you find yourself stressing about something or deciding you aren’t ready for the challenge. STOP. RETHINK. And come up with a neutral or positive replacement that boosts your confidence, and increases your level of inner motivation

Ultimately, creating your own kind and supportive thoughts is seen as positive self-talk and affirmation. Affirmations are positive self-talk statements which:

-          Start with “I”

-          Are clear and brief

-          Take place in the present

-          Become more effective with repetition

Take a minute or two from your day and either think or write down your own affirmations. Here are some examples, if you’re stuck:

-          I deserve to feel good

-          I am healthy and strong

-          I have unique abilities and talents

-          I take care of myself

-          I am a good person

-          When something goes wrong, I’ll handle it

My challenge for you is to start practicing positive self-talk. It’s okay to be down in the dumps at times, but try opening up your mind to a new perspective on the situation.

Bright Advice #6: Focus only on the present

Many people seem to dwell on the past. The past cannot be changed so it is really pointless reflecting on it, unless you are just making sure history does not repeat itself. The future is a result of all the actions that happen now - today. It's all a sequence. Learn from the past only to do better in the present so that you can succeed later in the future.

What makes a healthy relationship?

Dear Mr. Brightside,
I've been through a lot with my boyfriend of 7 months, but sometimes things don't go the way it should? I don't get the respect I think I deserve and I feel like I've become someone I'm not. Don't get me wrong, he has a good heart and I adore him a lot.. just some things I want to change?
-Anonymous

Thank you for the first question :] Hopefully, you and your significant other are treating each other well, but if you're really unsure, take a step back and think about whether your relationship are hitting these key points:

·         Mutual respect. Does he or she know exactly how cool you are and why? Now, watch out if the answer to the first part is yes but only because you might be acting like someone you’re not. What’s important is that your BF or GF is interested in who you are — for your sense of humor, your interests, etc. When you say you’re not comfortable doing something, does your partner listen and respectfully back off? Respect in a relationship means that each person values who the other is, and would never push the other’s limits.

·         Good communication. Many people say that men and women speak different languages. Even the phrase “no, nothing’s wrong” has many different meanings depending on who said it. Not understanding the meanings in between the lines can cause stir ups in relationships. What's important is to ask if you're not sure what he or she means, and speak honestly and openly so that the miscommunication is avoided in the first place. Never keep a feeling bottled up because you're afraid it's not what your BF or GF wants to hear or because you worry about sounding silly. And if you need some time to think something through before you're ready to talk about it, the right person will give you some space to do that if you ask for it.

·         Trust. You're talking with a guy from class and your boyfriend walks by. How does he react? Does he lose his composure or does he casually walk on by knowing he has no worries? Jealousy is a natural emotion, thus it is okay to get a little jealous at times. But how a person reacts when feeling jealous is what matters. There's no way you can have a healthy relationship if you don't trust each other.

·         Honesty. This one goes hand-in-hand with trust because it's tough to trust someone when one of you isn't being honest. Have you ever caught your girlfriend in a major lie? Like she told you that she had to work on Friday night but it turned out she was at the movies with her friends? The next time she says she has to work, you'll have a lot more trouble believing her and the trust will be on shaky ground.

·         Support. It's not just in bad times that your partner should support you. Some people are great when your whole world is falling apart but can't take being there when things are going right (and vice versa). In a healthy relationship, your significant other is there with a shoulder to cry on when you find out your parents are getting divorced and to celebrate with you when you get a good mark in school.

·         Fairness/equality. You need to have give-and-take in your relationship, too. Do you take turns choosing which new movie to see? As a couple, do you hang out with your partner's friends as often as you hang out with yours? It's not like you have to keep a running count and make sure things are exactly even, of course. But you'll know if it isn't a pretty fair balance. Things get bad really fast when a relationship turns into a power struggle, with one person fighting to get his or her way all the time.

·         Separate identities. In a healthy relationship, everyone needs to make compromises. But that doesn't mean you should feel like you're losing out on being yourself. When you started going out, you both had your own lives (families, friends, interests, hobbies, etc.) and that shouldn't change. Neither of you should have to pretend to like something you don't, or give up seeing your friends, or drop out of activities you love. And you also should feel free to keep developing new talents or interests, making new friends, and moving forward.

Bright Advice #5: Waking up the right way.

Wake up early and set aside an hour for personal development activities (meditation, self-introspection, observing nature, etc.)


Five reasons to wake up early:
1. It's quiet. Chances are your phone won't be ringing, your inbox won't be flooding, and there will not be construction outside your window.

2. It's the perfect time to practice meditation. Both have many health benefits including reducing stress. There's not a better way to start your day.

3. You have time to workout. Yep, that means you can practice yoga at home or go to the gym. There are no deadlines or interruptions this early.

4. You can eat a healthy breakfast. It's still the most important meal of the day and it's still the meal that we're mostly likely to skip out on.

5. You get a head start on the day. Getting a jump start on your day just simply feels great! You'll never want to feel behind by waking up late again


Do the things that make you feel blissful, optimistic and empowered so that you can set a positive tone for your day. I guarantee that once you start doing this, your days will be more enjoyable and fulfilling. Just think that today is going to be the best day of your life.